Help me please meet this guy we are both married but he says it's better if we remain just good friends 4ever

he says it's better we remain friends but we are still going to meet as friends do you think we will stay friends or not l don't want to lose him l need him in my life for the 1st time in my life l'm realy in love l married because l got pregnant my husband is always out with friends what shall l do l know that he still loves me and that his saying this to protect our kids and familys help me please how shall l react when we meet what shall l do

Help me please meet this guy we are both married but he says it's better if we remain just good friends 4ever
Then just remain as friends. You are MARRIED!
Reply:i think u gave a very good friend over ther so try not to lose coz very few people get god friend like this
Reply:no way. it's too complicated. you'll get hurt. unless you both willing to divorce each others spouses and remarry, but, hey...dont bet on that! stick to your marriage, if it's too horrible, leave your husband.
Reply:so what if u r married. having friends after marriage is not an offence. u can very well carry on
Reply:you both need to get divorced first...and you shouldn't meet until your divorces are filed and served.
Reply:leave the married men ALONE.
Reply:Hey..the first thing you need to establish is this man that you're in love with, ask him if he will be willing to be with you. if he says yes then just talk to your husband, if your marriage is exactly as you say, your husband will NOT mind ending things. Im sure he too wants a better life then to mop around in a marriage that doesnt really bring that much happiness.


Take things one step at a time. I do wish you luck!
Reply:Well I think you are confused because you are trying to find one solution to two problems.





First you have to sort out the issue with your marriage. Just imagine that there is no fall back guy and only then decide whether you want to try and save the marriage or end it. If you are honest with yourself then you will know the answer. If you do decide it's the end of the road then that's that. This way you can't blame that other guy or be disappointed if he doesn't do the same.





Then it's up to him. The solution to this second problem is a bit beyond your control since he will have to go through the same thing you did.





Well I think the chances are very slim that you two will be together in the end. But it's pretty clear that one or both your families will break up if you take a chance to be together.





I just hope things are really that bad for both of you to want to end your respective marriages and also that after it's over be able to support your kids.





Hope you find happiness..


Tc
Reply:If you're unhappy in your marriage, then you need to either repair it or leave it. To do otherwise only hurts your childrens' perceptions of what marriage is and is unfair to you and your spouse.


As for this guy...he's not going to leave his wife. Those kind never do.


Quit being friends with him honey, because he's only wanting in your pants no matter the caka he's telling you right now.
Reply:This is kind of funny. I use the friend line all the time, but as a joke. Its weird to see how well it works when someone takes it all the way.





Anyway your married, get over it.
Reply:you are sick.pity you, may god lead you to a better life.
Reply:if the "guy" feels about u the same way ,then check with Ur kids about leaving Ur hubby