Why is it so hard to meet true friends?

I find wherever you go,that there are so many people, yet it's so hard to have any of them as true friends. Are people just too caught up in their own lives and agendas, to really have the time to care about others?





I seriously have met alot of people throughout my life but, many of them were fair-weather friends, only there when the going got good, or were somewhat phony, and were only there because they wanted something from you.





How do you avoid all this crap and meet truly good people?





Thanks.





Is it possible nowadays?





Or is everyone too busy making that buck?

Why is it so hard to meet true friends?
cause people SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Yes, well I have found you have to be selective where you meet your friends first. And then you have to be selective on who you choose to be your real friend. Everyone is a potential friend, just like they are you potential enemy. But if that person is not a friend you keep them out of your life completely. There are different times in my life where I thought I had to be someone's friend to get ahead and those type of people you don't want as friends. Then there are "friends" you meet in a bar that forget you the next day. Then there are millitary friends or "battle buddies" you might pickup in stressful situations they could be friends for life or just until you get shipped somewhere else. There are friends you meet in church. They may be great until your going through something horrible and then you find out who your truest friends are because they will stick by you no matter what happens. Actually in my church I am happy to say I have found true friends. Because no matter what was going on in our lives they have stuck by us. But I have been to many churches in my life where this was not the case. A true Christian is a friend anyone else in a church maybe just playing at it, but it is good to be selective on who you really choose to be friends, because a true friend is more valueble than gold. I say do something you love meet people that have like intrests as you do it might steer you into a better quality of friends.
Reply:There're only three real good friends i have around me and


there're hundreds simple friends....friends for cocktails,assemblies and a hard time of rescueing animals.


Otherwise my three best friends are normally at my home on saturdays for drinks and discussions.





It's true that it's hard to have a true friend cuz speaking for myself,all my 'girlfriends' worked during the week days and they have a family and that bloody routines again and again.Some have their hobbies and we can't change a person to be of what we wished him to be.


Some people are shy and indoors and perhaps also egoist.


I dare to say this because i came accross these types too.


They worked and don't think of enjoying life.Like you've said,they're busy.


But what are they busy of?......


they're busy to IGNORE you.That's why they are busy.





For some people,it's better to be alone than to be in


a bad company.In the company of people who are busy to ignore.Real friends are sincere,they'd always listen to you


and be heard.
Reply:#1 answer -- now that was intelligent......wow.





there are good people out there, they don't all "suck".


yes, finding wholesome, true friends is difficult. But they


do exist. I have several very good friends that are honest,


and accept me for who I am, not what I am.





Alot of people look for friends in the wrong crowds.


They want friends that are in the phony, high-upscale crowd.


Have you ever looked outside the box to find a friend??





Yes, people are busy. But if you mingle with folks that


have the same interests as you, or people that do


wholesome activities, you'll find good people.





Bars, nightclubs, concerts are not the right place to


find good friends (been there, done that)......go to


festivals, parks, work-out places (gyms), museums,


sports activities....there you will find someone that


shares an interest the same as you. Broaden your


standards to all types of people, not just a certain


crowd.
Reply:I think that is true for most people. I only trust and am a true friend to a few people. yes i talk to and hang out with a bunch of people but i can't be everything for everyone. I can't spread myself that thin it is just not possibel. I suspect the same is for other people. There is a saying that people come into your life for a reason, life time or a season. I found that to be true. I know there are people i was close to in college that i have not seen or talk to in years.
Reply:people nowadays are too focused on themselves (sometimes) plus they are looking out for themselves. i have found that most people that are like that do it because they themselves are afraid of getting hurt...so they have to beat the other person to the punch, no knowing if the other person wil really hurt them or not...idk it is just how most people work