How do you meet/make friends?

i just moved 1200 miles for a new job and because my wife and i always wanted to live in florida. my problem is meeting people, and making friends, i'm shy and have a problem with trust. my wife and i get along fine, thats not what i'm looking for. there are somethings a man just can't talk to with his wife, i'm just missing having friendships. the friends i've had before i moved were people that i grew up with or people that i worked with for 19 years. where i'm working now the only peson i have much contact with is my boss and there won't be a friendship forming there. other people there, there just isn't opportunity for much conversation. i know this is pretty pathitic i'm 42 years old and i don't know how to make friends or where to even look. i don't like the idea of the chat rooms on the computer, that seems so impersonal. any ideas or suggestions. only serious responses please.

How do you meet/make friends?
try looking into your town's recreation dept, i know ours has men's basketball once a week and stuff like that. do you have kids? if you have school age kids you could try chatting it up with the other dads at soccer games and things like that. how is your wife at making friends? my husband complains when i drag him along to couple things but then he usually ends up having a good time chatting with the other guys. if your wife is more social than you, maybe she could set up a game night or a couples night out or something like that. or what about having a neighborhood barbecue and getting to know your neighbors?





whatever you decide to do, the important thingis to put yourself out there. it can be scary at first but the more you get out and talk to people the less akward it gets. good luck, hope i could help:)
Reply:Try joining an organization based on any hobbies you have... if you play an instrument/sing, maybe there's an orchestra/band/choir in your town. Join the gym, you'll always see the same people at the same time of day. Or do a couples class with your wife, like cooking or something. If you're a religious person, church etc. is a good way to meet people too. Any of these things can unexpectedly turn into a way to meet people with similar interests.
Reply:Join local sports clubs etc. Whatever you are interested in, join something.
Reply:just go out and start talking
Reply:chatrooms r impersonal. but u can still make a connection there. ive made friends in north carolina ohio and illinois. and ive met the guy from ohio. we're good friends. give chatrooms a shot and make sure the friends YOURE making are in your area since u want the personal connection. there are plenty of chatrooms labeled florida i reckon.


all of my friends communicate through instant messanger. its just how things are nowadays. its actually nice, u can carry like 10 different convos at once.


or ya know i agree about the whole join a club thing. join a country club


DONT BE SHY. thats no way to be. seriously