There are billions of people, yet it's still hard to meet cool/true friends. Is that implying people suck? lol

Billions of humans here on earth. Billions. In our country there are alot. Yet, you still hear of loneliness, can't trust anyone, yadda yadda yadda.





Why is it still so hard, even in America, to meet true friends and be surrounded by positive influence, when we have so many people around?





Being that not everyone has about 150+ awesome friends, and what not,





is it safe to assume that the majority of people, for whatever reason or another,





just suck?





I'm trying not to have a completely negative approach to this but, it's kind of difficult when you face the statistics and what people say.





We still have drug addicts, alcoholics, miserable people, etc.

There are billions of people, yet it's still hard to meet cool/true friends. Is that implying people suck? lol
It's true Luke,the more the population increased,the harder you can trust someone,especially in commercial world.


Let me just tell you how you can possibly recognize a true friend;





A simple friend has never seen you cry.


A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.





A simple friend doesn't know your parent's first name


a real friend has your phone numbers in his adds book.





A simple friend hates it when you call him after he has gone to bed.


A real friend ask you why you took so long to call.





A simple friend seeks to talk to you about your problems.


A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.





A simple friend when visiting you,acts like a guest.


A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.





A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have


an argument.


A real friend calls you after you had a fight.





A real friend expects to always be there for you.
Reply:Uh, so you've actually MET billions of people?





Has ANYONE?





No, right?





You've met relatively tiny percent of them, and not known even that many well enough to know whether they're OK people or not. (Some people you've met are great people -- you just couldn't know which, without being around them more.)





It's not possible for anyone to have 150+ FRIENDS, as a friend is someone you spend time with. There isn't enough time to spend that much quality time routinely with 150+ people.





Everyone sucks in SOME ways. Everyone has their things that aren't that great. Including you.





Understanding and accepting this (especially realizing it's true of you, too) is necessary for getting on with people. Thus, people who are my friends have to put up with my stuff; this helps me put up with theirs, and enjoy the plus stuff.





People who say "You can't trust anyone" are not themselves trustworthy people. It's simply not true that one can't trust anyone for anything.





There are people you can trust in some ways, but not others. I have a friend that I can trust not to hurt me, but can't trust to not blab if I tell her things I don't want generally broadcast. Just to take one example.





Others, I can trust not to blab.





If you look around, and only see sucky people, then either you're not looking carefully, or maybe you're sucky to people and they're put off by that.





Uh, yes, there are miserable people, and addicts, and bad people.





That doesn't mean there are no good people or happy people. (No one is happy every second of their lives -- cause life being life and all.)





Another thing is people have lives (well, most of them do); so you can't expect someone you meet to drop their lives and devote themselves to you whenever you want them.





We all have to choose whom to give our time to.





There's also the question of where you meet people. If you go to "The HOT Spot" in town, then you're going to meet nothing but people who want only to be at the HOT spot -- not a recipie for meaningful relationships.





Most people manage to find meaningful relationships -- just not with everyone they meet.
Reply:You are really bothered by this, aren't you?


Maybe its not really the "other" people....maybe it's you.


No offense, please, I just wonder if you have misconceptions


of what a friend should be. Or maybe you come off too needy.


Friends are people that love who you are, not what you are...


and if you are a good person with a caring heart and a jovial


laugh and a joke to share, then other good people attract


to you.


If you are uptight and judgemental of other people, they won't even try to get to know who you are. Don't be so cautious, just go out and try to know people through their eyes, and their smiles and their laughter.......don't judge them for their


ways' of life, or their appearances.


If you relax around others, they will relax around you.