Marired and about to go crazy if I don't meet some friends to hang out with. What is the best way to do it?

I moved here almost four years and ago and have been married for almost three years. Next month I will be 30 years old and I feel as if I have a boring life for someone my age. I go to work and come home and that's it. My husband has several friends that he hangs out with but they are single and not really dating anybody, so it's not like I can get to know their wives/girlfriends. One of his other friends is married but we hookup with them maybe once or twice a year, and then again, me and the wife don't really keep in contact after that. I don't think she is really interested in doing so, because she asked me for my number but has never called. That was like six months ago. I don't do clubs very often anymore. I may go once or twice a year at the most. The times I have tried to go to nice places and sit in the bar I just don't meet anybody. I have tried meeting people online but no luck. Where is an appropriate place for a married female to go to find friends?

Marired and about to go crazy if I don't meet some friends to hang out with. What is the best way to do it?
Do you go to Church...sometimes that's the best way to find a friend plus you'll have a common faith. Not saying that your life would resolve around your faith but that'll allow you to see each other constantly and maybe go out to dinner after service or whatever. I met most of all my friends through my religion. Something to think about. I dont' do the club scene either because I don't think it's appropriate for a married woman. But your husband "suppose" to be your best friend but I can see how you can get tired of him over time. Go to the gym or something you'll be surprise how you can become close bud's with a gym mate, especially if you go regularly.





Just some suggestions....but the older you are it is harder to find a close personal friend, but it's never too late.
Reply:I suggest joining a social group ( like group sports..etc.). One reason that it is harder to make friends is that by 30 many people have children and that is why keeps them busy with family outings. . I seem my friends maybe once a month and most weekends are spent with wife and kids. I do email/call friends but priority is wife/kids.
Reply:Buy a dog and go to the park and walk the dog. You will meet many others there that are jogging, taking kids to the playground or walking their pets.





Join a church. Most of them have married couples sunday classes and they organize trips and fun things with other young married couples that you have a lot in common with.





Ask people in your job to join you for lunch sometime.





Bake some brownies and take introduce yoruself to the new neighbors!





Good luck
Reply:join a church, you will find lots of friends there.
Reply:Take adult education classes. People tend to form little groups and sometimes go out for a drink or something after. What about people at work? I tend to pass by certain "types" for friendship because I don't think we'd hit it off. But I learned it's good to have different types of friends to do different things with. Also, go to those "awful" tupperware or toy parties. I ended up having a surprising amount of fun!
Reply:I'm in a similar situation...I have no time for classes and clubs but I might try to MAKE time..





you can email me on my 360 degrees and we can be friends
Reply:oh honey, Im sorry. Yes you def do need a life outside of the husband. I think that is very healthy for a marriage. It is hard to find people thou. I moved overseas with my now ex husband. He meet people quick throu work, and I stayed home and cooked and cleaned. I was soooo unhappy. I decided to get proactive. I signed up to take a couple of college courses and meet people that way. Then I finally started working and meet people that way. Is there a course youve always wanted to take? Art, History, Kick-boxing, swimming, yoga? Do it! Sign up for that class and just start chatting. It will take a few weeks, but eventually you can exchange numbers and then at some point go have a drink with your new found friend. A college course is a great excuse to exchange numbers without sounding crazy, bc you can discuss the "homework". Anyone at work that you have alot in common with? See if they want to have a drink after a hard day, or maybe you need to shop and say you really would appreciate if they went with for opinions...


I think the hardest thing is just taking that first step. You can do it! Good Luck to you!
Reply:sign up for a couple of classes that you are interested in:language, pottery, yoga, etc. You'll meet lots of people who will share your interests.
Reply:Try meeting people online, find a chat room that is for people in your area.